Hello, I am Erlwinmer Mangmang. I am a clinical psychologist, and I am a man. In my practice of Clinical Counseling and Psychotherapy I happen to observe that around 70% of my clients are having issues with either their fathers, brothers or any male figure in their lives. It is a concern where majority of us might be able relate with.
Breaking the Chains: The Impact of Toxic Masculinity on Men’s Mental Health
In a world increasingly aware of mental health issues, a reality persists—many men find themselves trapped in a cage constructed from the very expectations society imposes on them. Phrases like “Men cannot cry, it’s a sign of weakness,” and stereotypes such as “Fathers are providers, Mothers are caretakers” have become the echoing mantras of a patriarchal society that often views vulnerability as a flaw rather than a facet of the human experience. These notions not only stifle emotional expression but also contribute to the alarming decline of men’s mental health.
The Burden of Masculine Norms
From a young age, boys are indoctrinated with messages that equate masculinity with stoicism and emotional suppression. The idea that “Crying is a form of weakness” is deeply ingrained, leading many men to internalize their emotions rather than express them. This phenomenon can have devastating consequences, as unexpressed feelings often manifest as anxiety, depression, or even physical health problems.
As society continues to uphold archaic standards of masculinity, men often feel pressured to conform to these ideals, leading to a collective struggle with self-identity. The expectation to be strong, unemotional, and in control creates a façade that many men feel they must maintain at all costs, ultimately alienating them from their true selves and from those around them.
The Cost of Silence
The repercussions of toxic masculinity extend far beyond individual struggles. When men are conditioned to suppress their emotions, they often find themselves isolated, unable to connect deeply with others. This isolation can lead to a lack of support networks, further exacerbating mental health issues. Research has shown that men are less likely to seek help for mental health problems over women, often viewing it as a sign of weakness. This reluctance can lead to a cycle of pain, where unaddressed mental health issues spiral into more severe conditions.
The Role of Society
To foster a healthier model of masculinity, society must actively challenge and dismantle harmful stereotypes. This includes promoting emotional literacy in schools, encouraging men to seek mental health resources, and showcasing diverse representations of masculinity in media.
Celebrating emotional expression among men, whether through art, writing, or discussions, can help to shift public perception and inspire others to break free from the confines of traditional masculinity.
Moreover, it’s crucial that those in positions of influence—fathers, teachers, coaches, and leaders—model healthy emotional behaviors. By demonstrating that it’s okay to cry, to seek help, and to express feelings openly, they can pave the way for future generations to embrace a more holistic understanding of masculinity.
Conclusion
As we navigate the complexities of modern masculinity, it’s imperative that we recognize the damage inflicted by rigid gender roles and the importance of emotional well-being. By challenging outdated beliefs and advocating for a more inclusive understanding of what it means to be a man, we can create a society where all individuals feel empowered to express their emotions without fear of stigma.
Let’s work together to break the chains of toxic masculinity, cultivate healthy emotional landscapes, welcome and provide spaces for men (personally and professionally) and promote mental well-being for all. In doing so, we not only support men in their journey towards emotional liberation but also contribute to a more compassionate and understanding world for everyone. Should you find value in these information and might want to be helped or know someone who might find this helpful in their concern related to mental health among men, you may book an appointment with me through this link.
About the Author
Erlwinmer Mangmang is a Registered Psychologist, a practicing clinical counselor, and a trained mental health facilitator with a heart of service. He is passionate in teaching and advocating for mental wellness thru empowering and inspiring individuals towards personal growth and healing.
“I am believer that learning is a never ending process which is similar to journeying within ourselves and interacting with others.”
